Speaking without words (Helsinki)

Last night, went to my first "silent milonga" (no talking allowed), and wasn't really surprised at how effortless not saying a single word during the 3+ hours was. Perhaps silence is more natural to us Finns (after all, as the old saying goes, a Finn is fluently silent in all the languages he/she knows ) than to people from more talkative cultures?
What was surprising, though, was how much more intense and deeper the dancing felt. I experienced this increased depth in both roles, and realised that I would actually prefer at least the dancing part of every milonga to be totally wordless: no pleasantries between songs, no idle chit-chat while walking back to your seat from the dance floor. Just an intense sensation of having shared a moment with another person, of searching for an experience of common humanity that needs no explanations, no when's and how's and if's.
I left the Milonga feeling strangely refreshed, and very aware of the importance of touch in communicating our true self to others. Yes, the particularities of each person's life are important, but maybe we also need places and situations where all that matters is honesty in physical connection.

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